“If it hadn’t been for me, you would all be living in shacks in Potter’s Field!”
That’s what I might say when the stress of real life returned after Christmas break, and people started taking me for granted again.
Of course, I’m no George Bailey.
Though I question the doctrinal validity of Joseph and God blinking like stars in the sky when they talk and bells signaling angelic promotion, Capra’s classic film still causes me to ponder what the world would have been like without me.
I’m not fishing for compliments or penning myself as some kind of saint, but I am pretty sure if not for me, Mike would still be an arctic bachelor, and some happy couple would be the fortunate custodians of four phenomenal kids.
If it hadn’t been for me…
Some of you would have missed out on a few laughs, while others may not have shed quite so many tears.
Some of you wouldn’t have had a Louise to go with your Thelma or an Ethel for your Lucy (depending on which stage of life you found me).
Some of you may not have been encouraged, or hugged, or loved quite so much. Others would have one less adventure, one less story to reminisce about.
Some of you would have imbibed less coffee.
There would be fewer quips, fewer quotes, fewer inside jokes. And maybe there would be an empty spot in your life where a precious friendship should have been.
I’m not perfect—I’m not even good. In fact, if my inner self could be posted on Facebook for thirty seconds, everyone would unfriend me, including my grandma.
But life isn’t all about me.
I can’t help but think what life would have been like without some of you. Sure, there are some people I wish I’d never met (the string of bad boyfriends in the early 90s), but I would be a completely different person now if any single character had not been written into the script.
Without my dad, I’d have no courage, no independence.
Without my mama, no inspiration.
Without my husband, no real love.
Without my mother, no imagination.
Without my grandparents, no role models.
Without my aunties, no feeling of specialness.
Without my friends, no sisterhood.
Without God, no hope.
There are many stories I could tell about individuals who have had an impact on my life, but even a really good screenplay couldn’t capture it all.
Whether we have been center stage together, or whether you raised the curtain, lit the lights, played the music, whispered a line, set the props, gave me direction, or simply crossed downstage, every single one of you has played an invaluable role in my wonderful life.